Change Is Not a Four-Letter Word - Introvert Whisperer

Introvert Whisperer / Change Is Not a Four-Letter Word - Introvert Whisperer Change Is Not a Four-Letter Word Don’t you just love your habits? You must love them, because they are a big part of who you are, right? You have a habit of twisting your hair, sniffing, or eating when you’re tense. You do it without thinking about it, and that’s the great thing about a habit. It’s the robot part of living. It’s autopilot. The problem with a habitâ€"either one you want to get rid of or one you want to startâ€"is that you have to… change. Ick! We live in the midst of urban myth about change. The myth is we are resistant to change, yet we change all the time in every way and have from the moment we were born. We believe change is impossible, but that’s not true either. The one thing that is true is while there is expert knowledge about how to effectively make change, very few of us know about this information and subject ourselves to a lifetime of “do-overs.”  It’s not surprising our myths about change persist. In order to avoid being in the 70% of people who fail when making any type of change, there are a few things you can do. You must deploy all of these things: Plan to fail.   As negative as that sounds, it’s not. It means in our effort to change a habit, we will stray at some point. You might stray more than once. Make your strategy ahead of time and use it guilt-free. An example is eating. If you are dieting and can’t resist having some birthday cake, then recognize what you did and cut back your intake on the next meal. It works for anything, but do figure out where you might stray and know what you will do ahead of time. You need help. As a nation of cowboys, we’re prone to not ask for help. If you’re making a change, you need help. You need a person to hold you accountable, cheer you on, and keep you focused.   It often helps if that person is an expert in whatever habit you are working on, because they will have specific insight you need to know. People that attempt to make changes without another person in the mix, won’t succeed. You have to have an emotional need to change. You can’t logic your way to a change. If you don’t have an emotional connection or reason, you will lack the internal drive to push you forward. Think of this: If logic worked, no one would smoke or do drugs. We start for an emotional reason, and it takes an emotional reason for us to stop. The problem may be you haven’t connected to a deep-rooted emotion. Until you do, don’t start down the path of change, because you will quickly get derailed. It’s going to be uncomfortable. Part of the beauty of a habit is we don’t have to be conscious of what we’re doing. It’s a way to save energy. We do something and don’t burn one brain cell in the process. With change, you have to become conscious about your behavior, and that isn’t comfy, because it requires energy and focus. You have to keep doing something new in its place long enough to ultimately turn it into a lifestyle habit. Developing new behavior requires your time and attention far longer than you’d like. (Experts say repeated behavior for 21 days.   I think that is the bare minimum.) It’s a lifetime commitment. Many people make the mistake of thinking they will “do something until…”   In other words, they have a point out in time when they can take their foot off the gas and relax about the new behavior. Don’t plan on that working for you. You’ll notice people who go through 12-step programs to stop drinking refer to themselves as an alcoholic even when they haven’t drunk in years. It’s a way to maintain a level of consciousness as well as vigilance for the hard-fought-for change to stay in place. If you’re planning to change a habit, you don’t want it to be temporary. Tomorrow morning when you brush your teeth, be grateful your parents taught you so many good habits when you were young. Because now that you’re an adult, you realize how habits conserve your energy and how challenging it is to change them. This article was originally published on Evolving Magazine. Go to top Do you know what your next career step is?  Many people don’t. I want to help you accelerate your career by connecting you with your Free Instant Access to my eBook on how to construct your Career SMART Goals â€" that will help you put together your actions and keep you accountable. Get your copy now and start your action plan today! Brought to you by Dorothy Tannahill-Moran â€" dedicated to unleashing your professional potential. Introvert Whisperer

5 Benefits of Taking French Lessons on Skype

5 Benefits of Taking French Lessons on Skype Sign up successful 1. They can help you quickly learn  French pronunciation. One common thing that French learners struggle with is learning how to correctly pronounce French words. This is because, in most cases, the final consonant sounds are not pronounced in spoken French. Determining when to pronounce or leave off these sounds can be very challenging for new learners of the language. By working with someone who already knows how to speak French, you can learn correct pronunciation right from the beginning. This prevents you from developing  bad habits that are hard to correct later. When taking French lessons on Skype, be sure  to use headphones to ensure that you hear the teachers pronunciation clearly. 2. They offer more flexibility than traditional lessons. When taking local, in-person lessons, you are at the mercy of what is available in your area. If you live in an area with few French speakers, you will likely  have a limited number of  options of French tutors. When taking French lessons on Skype, you can schedule lessons to fit your busy schedule with teachers anywhere in the world. Whether you prefer morning, afternoon, evening, or even late night classes, you are very likely to find a private tutor who can  accommodate your schedule. 3. You will receive individualized instruction. When taking French lessons on Skype with a private tutor, your sessions will be one-on-one. This means that your teacher can completely customize the lessons to meet your needs. Because youll receive  individualized instruction, you can either slow down when struggling with a concept or skip over topics that youve mastered. 4. They offer increased convenience. Even if your  in-person French lessons only last 30 minutes to an hour, you might  waste a lot of time commuting to and from each session, time that could have been better spent studying new material. When taking French lessons on Skype, all you have to do is turn on your computer a few minutes before the lesson begins. When its over, you can immediately review the material or move on to other things you need to do. Because it is easy to attend your French lessons, you will stay motivated to stick with them. 5. You can try multiple teachers. Every teacher has a different teaching style. Taking French lessons online gives you access to many different teachers, each with his or her  own strength or expertise. When you start taking French lessons on Skype, you should try out a few different teachers to find the one who best  matches your learning style. If youre planning on taking more than one lesson per week, you can  even sign up with multiple teachers. The best way to learn any language is to use it. When you start taking online French lessons with  Skype, you are sure to see a big improvement in your French skills. Ready to start  your online French lessons? Sign up with  an online tutor today! Interested in Private Lessons? Search thousands of teachers for local and live, online lessons. Sign up for convenient, affordable private lessons today! Search for Your Teacher Photo by  Marco Raaphorst